Chiron and the original sin
I thank you Alejandro Lodi for giving me permission to use your great article to develop my subject. This is the inspiring Source: https://alejandrolodi.wordpress.com/2010/03/09/resiliencia-y-quiron-astrologico/
I thank you also for being an expert astrologer and explain everything so well. I recommend you visit his blog: https://alejandrolodi.wordpress.com/
Here I focus on human psychological concepts best I know from my experience as a music therapist and health coach, collecting mythological aspects that exposes Alejandro and leave aside the astrological subjects. I also focus on the European cultural tradition that includes Greek mythology, the Christian religion and web of the European way of thinking. Very different from the oriental cultural background, especially Hinduism.
So, I will talk about suffering for lack of love, resilience and how can a therapist help patients-clients, or you can help yourself by realizing.
There has been a lot of research (Boris Cyrulnik, Victor Frankl, Carl Rogers, Abraham Maslow …) on human resilience, and surprisingly with very little scientifically definitive results. Why are humans who overcome the pain (dramatic situations) and not others? Where does this pain come from? Where does this pain lead me?
In Greek mythology, the human “suffering” is related to the limit that frustrates our longings for happiness, the awareness of finitude and consequent injury. Beyond the suffering then the search for meaning and significance of it appears. Reality is changed, to see a different human and close to the divine level, a dimension beyond time limits that dissolves and redeems one’s own pain of the physical / emotional past experience that we bring to here and now.
Chiron is a character whose central theme is the pain of humanity and the mystery of healing.
The term “resilience” comes from the field of physics and refers to the ability of the material to return to its original shape after some external impact forced them to deform.
Applied to human behavior, this concept is used to describe the possibility of overcoming a painful and / or tragic life events turning them into opportunities for maturation and deployment of a fuller sense of his own existence. This conclusion stems from the observation and investigation of individuals (I and World War II especially, or abuse) who underwent in her childhood to the most traumatic events and that, however, then learned to develop as mature subjects able to “adapt” to society and deploy their talents. Some researchers suggest that the very fact of having to go through adversity is what allowed this potential resilience, so that extreme suffering experiences are presented as an opportunity.
That is, resilience is not only the ability to face adversity and learn to overcome difficult situations, but emerge stronger from contact with talents (or love and forgiveness). In this sense, it is not returning to the state before the event, or forget or block contact with the wound. On the contrary, this is not to interrupt the evolutionary development and awaken talent through the crisis raised by the trauma, transforming it into a potential activator.
Apparently specialists resilience also agree not to present it as a special attribute of exceptional beings, but as a specific function within the human psychic system: the ability to adopt a healthy and operationally in the world when it is forced to deform by action of external circumstances. Some experts say it is clear that this function may be more or less developed in the individual, and to give one or another variant is key also the performance of others. According to the specialists they say, an essential characteristic of resilience is that it is both an individual and social capacity, so that its inhibition or stimulation depends less on the personal disposition and the interaction link. It seems that mainly internal resources activate resilience thanks to the positive participation of others.
This leads to emphasize love as the key to the emergence of resilience. That’s why the importance of the presence of a significant adult to stimulate the potential for resilience at the time the child crosses the traumatic crisis. In the case of adults we could talk about the need for a significant other to serve as agent for resilience, which include humor, creativity, insight, initiative, morality and self-esteem.
Why do I speak of Chiron and original sin?
Why to my understanding, stories can be told from different viewpoints. And much of the system of European collective imagination is based on the original biblical sin, that is, Adam and Eve, the first two children of Christian history made the mistake of facing God (the father) and were punished for it . And God got so angry that his descendants still paying for that mistake terribly called “sin”. That is, children are always in a meagre position as seen from the point of view of the father (authority). Well, very funny! And parents never fail?
Hence the importance of the appearance of Chiron. Chiron is associated with the wounded healer. I see it as the prospect of pain from the point of view of a child. Its symbol refers to a deep wisdom about pain, to such an intimate knowledge of suffering that ends up becoming healing talent. That is, Chiron refers to an ever open wound in us-children who can develop compassion for those who suffer and accompany healing. Chiron combines understanding and pain, wisdom and compassion. We know about that suffering because we hurt ourselves, because we are present in that pain, not necessarily because we have overcome and closed in the past.
Why when someone “suffers” you can stay in the complaint, in his role as victim, so call “attention-love” of others, which no longer victim to become attention-stealer love.
Or, you can transcend the wound to heal.
The reality is that children always want to feel loved by their parents. If you do not feel this love, there is rejection and pain.
Thus, theoretically that pain “nonsense” (why me?) converts into a deeper and compassive attitude to the pain of the others.
Where does this idea come from? Let’s look at its history. In Greek mythology, Chiron is the son of a relationship of Cronus (Saturn) with Filira. The attraction of Cronos and Filira is basically instinctive, they copulate while taking animal form: the horse. That’s why the fruit of that relationship is a centaur. It is the first centaur. Chiron, a being, at that time considered horrendous, being half human, half horse. His father does not recognize him and his mother refuses him, not only as the result of an unwanted relationship, but because his appearance is monstrous. (Then after Disney Fantasy the Centaurs are no longer considered monstrous.)
The feeling of parental rejection comes especially when we need to be recognized as loved ones. The same story of Adam and Eve. Rejection. However, Chiron refers to the feeling of exclusion, in this case, being rejected by a stigmatizing difference which is responsible at all. Since this rejection the feeling of lack of grace that others enjoy, placed in difficult life is generated. That is why Howard Sasportas Chiron links with a sense of disability, which can be physical, psychological and spiritual, and may even be explicit and be in the form of illness, disease or accidental events destination.
Here, from the point of view of the child, rejection can be percived, for example, as a stern look from the parent, less hugs than other children, disgust, or insults, maltreatment, abuse and actual abandonment.
And when the child can transcend that “abandonment” or “rejection” of the parents, or forgive when you can heal both himself and his family, friends, patients, colleagues, …
Given that in Europe there have been two world wars, the Spanish Civil War over, there are many hardships, much abuse and neglect accumulated in the souls and families.
It is important to note that there is a basic rule that we must follow in family systems. If this rule is not respected you can create many alterations. We simply must follow a loving order: the oldest members of the system are those who love, care, nurture, protect and take responsibility for the children.
I feel that my seniors patients with dementia or Alzheimer who I have treated for some years with music therapy in geriatric homes are actually manifesting the primal wound of lovelessness. Despite all my knowledge of psychology, music, music therapy, art therapy, NLP, etc … the only thing that really seems to relieve them and comforts them is to feel connected to the source of unconditional love. All knowledge and developed activities are only a means.
As Osho says: “A good therapist must be immensely compassionate, because it is not ones therapy techniques that heals, it is his/her love.
There is nothing compared to love, when it comes to heal the wounds of a human being. The techniques may be useful as support, but the basic is a loving heart. “